Coming outDear Uncle B, Aunt S, and Uncle L,Coming out by EternalGeekExposed
I want to say this because I'm feeling brave tonight, although I might decide against it before I send it. We'll see. I am afraid of saying this out loud, I'm afraid of what you will think of me, and I'm afraid of admitting this even to myself. But I've been trying to find words for this my entire life, and now I think maybe it is time for me to try to be honest.
I see myself as a man. My body is female but my mind and personality tell me I am a man. And since my mind and personality are what make me ME, I think I am a man.
I don't mean that I fit a personality stereotype of male-ness. I really don't. In fact, I've gotten more and more comfortable with my "feminine" side ever since I started identifying as a lesbian. I'm far from being a manly-man. I wish I were, so that maybe people would take me more seriously and see the male side of me. But I'm not. That's not me.
But I've always as
Love the sinner, hate the sinI feel like something needs to be said about hate-speech. I don’t mean Westboro Baptist Church picket signs or the crazed ramblings of TV show hosts trying to blame natural disasters on a small minority of the U.S. population. I’m talking about the polite words, the “loving” phrases that may Christians use that they may not realize are extremely hurtful and cruel to the recipients. I want to talk about all the ugly messages and meanings that are often conveyed through this speech that many probably aren’t even aware of.Love the sinner, hate the sin by EternalGeekExposed
Let me be clear that the purpose of writing this is not that I can’t handle hearing anything negative or that I’m trying to avoid getting my feelings hurt. Although I think those are valid reasons to avoid offensive language, this isn’t just about me. I can handle a little rudeness. My real interest is being able to clear the way for a more open dialogue between Christians and members of the LGBT community. This dialogue w
Why I oppose spankingTW: Mild self-harmWhy I oppose spanking by EternalGeekExposed
I was spanked as a child. I was a well-behaved youngster who needed little discipline and was generally obedient and respectful to the best of my ability. I can probably count the number of times I was spanked on my fingers. I was not scarred for life by this ordeal, I am well-adjusted, and I have never reacted by being violent to others. To all appearances, I am a testament to the value of the practice of spanking.
And yet, I oppose it. Vehemently.
This was not always so. For most of my life, I assumed that spanking was a generally useful practice that taught kids to expect consequences to their actions. It promoted personal responsibility, I was told, and enforced respect. I fully expected that I would spank my own children (hopefully not often). I further expected that children who were not spanked would likely be unruly, disrespectful, and lack a sense of responsibility and self-control.
However, as I began to
Evangelizing hurts evangelicalsThe non-religious have long been discussing the toxic environment that evangelizing and proselytizing can create. Common complaints are attitudes of hostility, harassment, implicit threats of eternal torture, and a refusal to desist when asked. All of these are important problems, but I want to draw attention to the less-examined side of the issue: the culture of proselytizing hurts its own members.Evangelizing hurts evangelicals by EternalGeekExposed
Surprisingly, it only recently dawned on me how unhealthy the mindset of evangelizing culture is. Growing up, it was impressed on me that the world was lost and dying; each person was wallowing in a temporary hell, just waiting until the afterlife to suffer eternally again in a permanent hell. The picture painted was pretty dire, and it broke this child’s heart. I wanted so badly for these poor, suffering people to be happy and avoid this dark fate.
But the true danger comes from the expectations that the church places on its congregation. We
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This is a second account where I feel safe being involved in the LGBT community. My main account is . However, I ask you to please, PLEASE not discuss LGBT topics there or link anything on that account back to this one. This is my alias where I can be safe in who I am. Thank you for your understanding.